It can be hard to admit that things are tough and that you’re not coping too well with life’s difficulties. In today’s world where the tendency is to portray our lives as picture perfect it takes courage to take the first step and contact a counsellor and ask for help. Most of us at some stage in our lives will face difficult or dark times. Bereavement, relationship difficulties, job losses, addiction are some of the struggles we might face at some point in our lives. How you cope with these challenges will depend on several things and your experience of life up to this point will have a huge influence on how you interpret what happens to you. If you have had a secure childhood where your self-esteem has been nourished you may well have good resilience and a good ability to roll with the punches. If, on the other hand, you have had a less positive experience growing you might find it harder to cope or to recover from trauma. This is where counselling comes in. A counsellor will help you to make sense of your past and your present. This is done through talking and listening. The counsellor listens carefully to what you’re saying, trying always to get a true sense of your experience. This is called empathic listening and has its roots in the Person Centred tradition of counselling founded by Carl Rogers. The relationship between the counsellor and the client is very important, in fact Carl Rogers, claimed it was the most important thing in therapy. If you feel you don’t have a good connection with your counsellor don’t be afraid to shop around. The work you are going to do in therapy is too important (and can take a substantial financial commitment on your part) for you to waste your time with the wrong therapist. Not every therapist (no matter how good, or how highly recommended) is right for every client and a good therapist will have no problem with you shopping around to find the right one.
Right now might be a good time to admit that I probably wouldn’t have gone to counselling if it hadn’t been a requirement for my training course. We were required to undertake 50 hours of personal therapy over the course of three years. I have to say it was the best time and money I have ever invested in myself. As a busy mother of three I wasn’t in the habit of prioritising my own needs so it was something of a novelty to have that time every week where I could focus on me and on issues that had been causing me difficulties for years. I felt I finally got to know myself through the work I did with my therapist. It was a relief to make friends with myself, flaws and all. It was a requirement for training but it was a great gift to myself. I felt I grew as a person and matured as a parent with the benefits being felt not just by me but by my family as well. Having been forced to overcome my own reluctance I would really recommend counselling and psychotherapy and encourage anyone to take that first step and make contact with an accredited therapist. If you are willing to put the work in you will reap enormous rewards.
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